You’ve been taught to accept and rely other people’s perspective from childhood.
When you fell and scratched your knee your parents would comfort you, tell you that you’ll be fine, and eventually you’d accept it and stop crying.
Then at school you relied on the teachers to tell you how well you’re doing.
Then on to a job where you relied on your boss to tell you how well you’re performing.
We rely on external validation to move us forward and to let us know that we are doing the right things.
Today, our ‘social media world’ is FUELLED by external validation. The likes, the comments, the loves…
The problem with external validation is that it motivates and cajoles you to become the person that other people want you to be, rather than becoming the best version of yourself.
Have you ever been taught how to appreciate yourself? I haven’t, and like many people I had to discover the process for myself.
There’s no one single solution to this challenge, and it’s not something that can be solved overnight. However, there are tools available to you that will help you to understand and appreciate you as a person:
Chris has said before that we have to learn to become our own best friend, and these tools will help you on your journey to loving yourself.
The only person you can truly believe and rely upon to motivate and push you forward is yourself.
Is it possible for you to be your own cheerleader, your own motivator, your own guide, your own best friend?
I believe it is, and that you must develop this relationship with yourself if you want to do your best work.